Whitney Houston once sang, “How will I know if he really loves me?” Most people would probably answer, you just know. I would say, you can’t ever really know, and does it really matter? (gasp!)

According to Albert Einstein,

“Physical concepts are free creations of the human mind, and are not, however it may seem, uniquely determined by the external world. In our endeavor to understand reality we are somewhat like a man trying to understand the mechanism of a closed watch. he sees the face and the moving hands, even hears its ticking, but he has no way of opening the case. If he is ingenious he may form some picture of a mechanism which could be responsible for all the things he observes, but he may never be quite sure his picture is the only one which could explain his observations. he will never be able to compare his picture with the real mechanism and he cannot even imagine the possibility of the meaning of such a comparison.”

You can have a belief about how the universe works, but unless you find a way to pry off the back of that watch, that’s all it is – a belief. That doesn’t render it unimportant. On the contrary, you make a lot of decisions based on what you believe. I had a coach – Debra Russell – who once said to me, “You can’t know what’s really true, so why not choose to believe what best serves you?” Smart lady.

Back to the Whitney Houston question. It doesn’t matter if he really loves you. It only matters (to you) how you feel about what you think he feels about you – or not. Still, it’s a catchy tune.